Here is a diagram to illustrate this idea.
This idea is not my own. It was forwarded to me from two friends who learned about it from the following blog and LA Times article.
How To Respond to a Friend in Crisis (Shasta's Friendship Blog)
People want to help, they want to be supportive. Many have no idea what to say, others have no clue that what they think is supportive, really isn't. I really like that this diagram and these articles include immediate family, they too need support. I'd like to restate something I said in an earlier post, if you must say something, "I'm sorry you have cancer" is a good one. Likewise, "I'm sorry your wife, husband, mother, sister, girlfriend, whoever, has cancer" will do. Either of these can be followed with "Here's a gift card for a day of housecleaning from a service" or "Here's a gift card for groceries to be delivered".
On a more personal note, my most recent ct scan this week showed no change. Everything is stable. Considering that my last scan showed my lymph nodes were as small as they can get and since they can't measure the diffuse cancer in the lining of my stomach, this really is the best news we could get. For now, treatment continues status quo.
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